Sunday, September 29, 2013

Yet Another . . .

Dear friends and family:

Joy had to undergo surgery once again on Friday, September 27th.  It was discovered through tests conducted in the preceding weeks that her shunt was not performing up to par and that her ventricles had become slightly enlarged from a build-up of spinal fluid as a result.  In fact it was determined that the shunt was not working at all, which in a sense was good news because it suggested that as the shunt gradually shut down from blockage that Joy was processing some of her spinal fluid on her own and transferring it to her abdomen where it is supposed to go.

We've become veterans of surgical procedures and yet it's always nerve-wracking.  Joy handled it with her customary ease and grace.  I was a little more emotional since it brought back some of the bad memories of the early days of this ordeal, but the fact that Dr. Sanchez was again in charge of the procedure put my mind at ease.  He was not sure what he would find and his initial explanation was along the lines of a worst-case scenario, namely that if the tube coming out of the interior of Joy's brain was blocked, he would be drilling through her skull plate and installing another tube in the top of her head. This was more complicated than I had anticipated, but I trust Dr. Sanchez and know he will always do the right thing.

A shunt is a pump apparatus that is installed behind the ear.  A tube connected to it runs from the valve to the interior of the brain.  Another tube runs from the valve down through the body to the abdomen and transfers the spinal fluid there from the brain.  Some of Joy's early problems in the first months of 2011 were due to the inability of her doctors at Loma Linda to install a shunt that performed properly.  They installed two shunts at different times, neither of which worked. My personal opinion is that they rushed the process, that they should have been aggressively removing the fluid that was building up in her ventricles by whatever means necessary, but they failed to do that.  When we got her to Scripps Green in the care of Dr. Sanchez, a drip line was inserted that removed the fluid that had built up in her ventricles and was exerting pressure against the inside walls of her brain.  It was a gradual process.  After three weeks, once Dr. Sanchez determined that her ventricles had returned to normal size, he installed a new shunt.  That shunt worked well for a year and probably longer.  But over the past year, those of us who care for Joy noticed that her general condition seemed to be declining slightly.  She slept more and was not trying to communicate as much.  Walking and retaining her balance seemed a little more difficult for her.  The changes were barely noticeable, but we all agreed they had occurred.  

The surgery went well.  Dr. Sanchez discovered that only the valve had clogged and did not therefore have to replace the tube to the inside of her brain.  He replaced the valve in the shunt with a new and improved version that was not available in February of 2011 when he installed the last one.  It is apparently easier to adjust the flow rate on this new device.  He also opened up a small hole in her abdomen to check the other end of that tube.  Everything is now working the way it is supposed to.  This was the fourth shunt installation or replacement that Joy has undergone and we hope it will be the last.

She came home Saturday afternoon after spending the night in the hospital.  She has several staples in the skin behind the ear and a few more in her stomach.  She was smiling all day Saturday, but today, Sunday, we could tell she's having some discomfort.  She will visit the doctor later in the week to have the incisions examined and have a CT scan to see if her ventricles have shrunk any.   

We hope the new shunt will result in improvement in both her physical and cognitive abilities.

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Joy had a birthday on August 13th. She and nurse Natalie and I went out to dinner at a huge sushi restaurant named Shogun and Joy, who loves sushi,  ate like a horse:





Then we came back to the house and celebrated with Sister Susan and Paul.  Susan baked the world's largest cupcake and Joy was delighted by it.  She couldn't stop smiling:


In June, we had a visit from our friends Gary and Lynn Jensen Nagle who we visited at their vacation home in Costa Rica in 2007.  It's always good to see them.  I've known Gary since high school and Lynn since she met Gary in college.  They have kept in touch and have been very supportive during the most difficult times.  Joy's friends from work, Cyndy Smith and Georgia Schweitzer, also visited shortly after Joy's birthday.  They have been regular visitors and fill the house with laughter when they come.  We appreciate any and all visitors, so if any of you are in the area, give us a call and stop by. 

Love to you all,

Joy and Doug

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Settling In

Some of you have noticed that it's been nearly six months since I posted on the blog.  Two of Joy's former co-workers, Colin Carr and Gavin Tull wrote expressing concern about the lack of news and that was sweet of them.

Joy is fine.  We are settling in.  There hasn't been much of note to write about in the way of changes in Joy's condition.  Sadly, I'm now of the opinion that Joy has hit a kind of flat line in her recovery.  It became apparent around Christmas time when I was comparing older posts on this blog to the newer ones.  Joy had a spurt of improvement when she got home two years ago on April 29th and it seemed to continue for nearly a year, but the past year has not seen much improvement, although her physical health has improved and we are not now experiencing any problems.  The "flat line" doesn't change anything, but I owe it to all of Joy's friends and family to speak the truth:  it appears to me that Joy will never recover sufficiently to be able to take care of herself.  She doesn't have the capacity to develop those skills and retain them.  That fact will not change anything in the way we live.  I will always care for her and love her to the best of my ability.

But I've been forced to petition a judge to make a legal change in our relationship.  Because we never formally signed or had notarized a document giving each other power of attorney even though we had the documents in our possession, I have been advised by an attorney that I need to file legal papers to give me the power of  a conservatorship over Joy and her affairs.  The attorney said that until we do that we will never be able to sell our home, since Joy is incapable of signing documents and we are joint owners.  The necessity for this legal action became even more apparent  last week while I was arranging for our switch to Medicare and learned that Joy cannot get supplemental insurance for Medicare until I get the conservatorship to allow me to sign for her.  It should take about three months for the conservatorship to be awarded by the judge. She is covered by Medicare Part A and B now, but if there is another catastrophic health crisis, we could end up paying 20% of the bill.

There are also financial matters that need to be attended to.  Joy had some IRAs and a 401k that need to be managed and she also has a pension coming when she turns 65.  The people who manage these accounts cannot legally talk to me and make changes that will benefit Joy and I until I get the conservatorship.  It simply is something I must do for our future.  

The lesson that everyone should learn from this is that if you are married, make sure you and your spouse have power of attorney over each other's affairs should something similar to what happened to Joy and me happen to you.

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We've had a beautiful spring again around here.  The bluebirds are nesting in front and the house wrens in the back bridhouse behind the pool.  The ash-throated fly catchers are intently watching and waiting for one of the occupied bird houses to open up.  We've seen king snakes on several occasions.  Here's a picture of one taken with my iphone:

These snakes are wonderful.  They kill rattlesnakes by constricting them.  They are immune to rattlesnake venom.  I chanced upon a king snake who was about to kill a rattler one day in the middle of our gravel road.  I went back to the house in my car and got my camera.  When I came back I must have gotten too close with the car and it scared the king snake away.  The picture below is of the king snake moving away with the rattler still in the middle of the road.

And here's a bluebird picture:

 and his mate:



I'd like here to mention the passing of my uncle, MacDonald Eaton who died after a long illness in March.  Uncle Don was a talented artist and designer who never stopped creating throughout his life.  I have several works of his in my possession and I treasure them.  Here is a link to his obituary in a local newspaper in Central New Jersey:

MacDonald Eaton

He will be sorely missed. 


Joy and I wish you all a happy spring and a restful, vacation-filled summer.

Love to you all,


Doug